I have always been a pretty awkward person, not many friends. I “survived” into adulthood. A combination of one of my equally “weird” friends claiming he has asperger’s and that I must have it too, an online-test and a discussion with my psychologist has led me to understand that I might be what she’s describing as “autistic in the sub-clinical level” . No real diagnosis though.
Fast forward to having children myself. My firstborn is a friendly chap, my second is a weirdo like me. He’s been also diagnosed with ADHD and social development/communication problems (among others). I am pretty sure he’s “like me” all the way, if you get my drift.
Socially, I had a very difficult time growing up and now I am concerned for him. He has a couple of friends (just like I did: other non-conventional kids), but he just “doesn’t fit in” in the larger frame of school or sports team.
Any advices? Perhaps from fellow “non-conventional” people who struggle with the same issues? Ideas (also books, website etc.) on how to deal with it in two levels
- That my child will not suffer
- That I will not pass him my social anxieties. E.g. recently there was an exclusive invitation in his running group for some of the children to participate in an advanced running camp. He was not invited of legit reasons (not good enough, etc.), also because of his social skills I suspect, but when I saw the invitations, I had the feeling of “another party I haven’t been invited to” from my childhood.