I personally think that puritanical parenting that promotes humbleness and discourages bringing attention to oneself can be counterproductive.
Some parents might refuse to let their child host a party at their house. Hosting can raise a child’s status at school. At a young age, this could potentially result in developing charisma, and set a baseline expectation for future social standing.
Many parents are adverse to giving their child a high allowance, or buying them what might be perceived as unnecessary material goods, like trendy clothes. I think that the mental and social benefits of fitting in are well worth the expense.
Another example of this is the question of what car to have your teenager drive. Do you make them drive a laughable beater, in an attempt to humble them, or do you give them the opportunity to drive a relatively nice car in order to gain social standing and confidence?
On that note, I wouldn’t advocate spoiling a child by lavishing them with unearned gifts. I do think that giving them tasks with sufficiently high rewards would do enough to instill a work ethic. For example, tying a generous allowance directly to the completion of chores, or the traditional promise of a nice car for outstanding grades.
The big question I’d be interested in hearing your opinion on, is whether you would be explicit in teaching your child about the realities and advantages of social engineering, or if you would take a strictly passive route in directing their development.