She starts next school year. So far she’s been a straight A student. She loves science and math. I don’t want to screw this up, she is my only child and hope that pole dancing is nowhere near her future… or ever for that matter.
/Edit 1: Wow.. i just went to pick her up from school and came back to all this. Thanks guys/gals. //Edit 2: It’s 3am…. i can’t read anymore. I sincerely thank all of you who gave advice for academics and social life. Furthermore, thanks to those who gave me advice too. ///Slashies
Pictures on the internet and on phones are FOREVER. Think twice, even three times before you post or send any picture of yourself.
Tell her that having a boyfriend (or girlfriend — kids are coming out younger and younger these days) does not validate her as a person. Other people do not validate you, only you can validate yourself. You are not a greater person because you have a love interest.
I’m a geeky gal (and I’m a scientist now, so this is relevant to your question), and all through high school, I always wondered what the hell was wrong with me because boys didn’t ask me out.
But nothing was wrong with me. If they didn’t wanna ask me out, they just didn’t. It didn’t mean I was an inferior person. And as it turns out, a few of them did fancy me, but were afraid to ask (they told me years later).
I just wish I would have known this lesson sooner so I could have focused on being awesome in my own right, instead of waiting on a cute boy to do it for me by extension.
Make sure she knows that she does NOT deserve to be treated badly in a relationship. Tell her to never let another person distract her from her own goals and wishes.
This seems like obvious advice, but I really wish someone told me this when I was younger. I missed out on so many things in high school because I stayed in an abusive relationship. I was exposed to things that teenage girls should not have to witness, and the worst part is I could have left anytime, but I convinced myself I couldn’t do anything better. I barely scraped by in high school…five years and lots of obstacles later, I’m about to graduate from a state university with honors…but that could have been a lot easier if I realized my potential earlier.
This is super cheesey and I will probably be downvoted for it, but have her listen to the song “Fifteen” by Taylor Swift…I’m not a fan of her music but I literally tear up when I listen to it because it’s so damn accurate, haha! Good luck to you and your daughter.